A language is a medium to communicate with people and allows you to say what is in your mind. There are nearly 6,500 spoken languages in the world; however, some of those languages have fewer people speaking them. At the same time, there is another kind of language where most fails to understand, or notice or even try to learn. It is the body language, which requires a lot of patience to notice as well as to understand.
Once learned, it helps us in a lot many places to deal with people around us and to get through easily in any kind of conversation.
“Body Language as a non-verbal communication is very essential in any relationship, being completely oblivion of body language reduces chances of lasting relationships.”
For success in any kind of relationship, be it personal or professional it’s important to learn all kinds of signals a body sends like the facial expressions, gestures, eye contacts, etc to connect with people around you and helps you to develop better rapport among all.
We are usually accustomed to non-verbal communication even when we talk. For example, when we are angry and fighting with someone, our faces carry a scowl and an expression which shows anger and dissatisfaction.
Similarly, some people do not say anything, yet you can understand the person through their reactions and body language. It can be useful in a date, when your partner does not say much, and you need to know where you stand in the relationship to proceed with the next step. Knowing to understand the non-verbal language can be a lot much beneficial in this kind of situation.
Before we learn some of the body languages, which are commonly used it is important to know that actions are carried out simply by habit or some kind of disability, which might not mean anything, in particular, about their thoughts or feelings.
When in a conversation, our body automatically reacts to the kind of thoughts, our mind has and without our knowledge, we change positions of our body parts and our head and neck change according to the feelings and thoughts our mind has.
An overly tilted head indicates usually sympathy. If the person smiles while tilting their head, it can indicate a flirtatious nature or being playful.
A lowered head can mean a lot other things. It can be the person is shy, ashamed, in disbelief, or might be hiding something and not giving the complete information. Sometimes it can mean the person is simply not interested in the conversation. A lowered head, moreover, depends on eye contact, eyebrow and mouth gestures. So observe carefully and do not speed into your judgment.
Eyes talk too
When parents blame us for lying, they always ask us to look into their eyes and speak? Any idea why is it? Our eyes are the most communicative part, and it speaks volumes without uttering a word from the mouth.
Eyes looking to sides usually indicates of being nervous, lying, or distracted. Looking downward at the floor indicates either being shy or upset, or it could be they are thinking something emotional, which is sad. Although, its a common practice in many countries, looking directly into the eyes is dis-respectful, and some try to avoid eye contact out of respect. Dilated pupils indicate the person is very much interested in you, or about what you are talking. However, beware, before you get excited, make sure the person dilation is not of another cause. If a person seems looking far off in a conversation, it could mean that they are not interested.
When people are uncomfortable with their appearance and self-conscious or a little reserved, they usually cross their arms. However, when their stance is with feet wide apart and with tight crossing arms, it can mean authority. Hands closed together and in hiding can mean either angry or irritated. Resting arms at the back of the neck can mean just being casual and interested in talking the conversation. Hands on their hips indicates waiting or of being impatient. Surely, we do remember the way our mother’s stands when we are asked to do something, and we do not hurry up isn’t it?
In a conversation, there are people who do not share about what they think, but sometimes it matters a lot for us. A lot of gestures can mean that they are not being agreeable about what you are saying, and many times they show it in their body movements even though they might not say anything.
Pushing hair back from hands while raising an eyebrow is one way, which tells us that the person disagrees with us. Doing some kind of repeated adjustments on the face with a frown also indicates they disagree with us.
The position of legs and its movements also indicates a lot of things about what a person is thinking or feeling. Tapping the feet when in a conversation can simply mean the person is impatient and desires to leave. A slow change in the position of legs trying to move far can mean the person is being either nervous or uncomfortable. A speaker in a group of conversations usually points one of his feet to a person who he is most interested in talking to among the others. Touching feet purposely is an indication of flirting.
There are still a lot many other actions and gestures of our body, which has its individual meaning and its individual talking. Use it for your own knowledge, but careful, too much observing can also distract you and might lower your confidence.