Count your life by Smiles, not Tears.

We all have heard people advising us that prevention is better than the cure. It sure is. Why do we have to go through pain and suffering when we can avoid them? In my opinion, I think it is human nature to learn from experiences. Sometimes I feel that animals are better than humans in some aspects. For instance, when a baby giraffe is born, it falls from more than five feet above the ground and amazingly does not get hurt. Then the mommy giraffe kicks her baby giraffe until it stands up on its feet and within thirty minutes of its birth the baby giraffe can be seen standing. Within ten hours of its birth, the baby giraffe can be seen running with its mommy. Let alone kicking a newborn human baby, we can’t even dare to hurt it, so much so its hair starts paining.

However, what we take so much time to learn gives us an advantage over the animals in the long run. Numerous experiences teach us the important lessons. Animals cannot know how to control their emotions but humans can and we do too. It’s the intelligence and better learning capacity of the humans that we have become civilized. Using and controlling our emotions in the best possible way is an ability of humans that can not only help us in our individual lives but also aid us to make this world a better place.
Anger, what really is anger? Why does it even exist? Is it good or bad? Anger is an emotion and is a response to a certain stimulus that is unpleasant or unwanted. A person may also feel anger build up inside of him when he is denied something or when he is in a stressful situation. The bottom line is that anger is, almost always, a negative emotion. Some people may argue that anger is the fuel to drive a person to attaining his goals. I, on the other hand, choose to view anger as an emotion to be avoided as much as possible. Diego Maradona is one of the best footballers the world has ever seen. He was a prodigy and things that he did on the football field were simply remarkable. The interesting fact about Diego Maradona is that he mentioned in his autobiography that whenever he was angry, he performed at his best. Though he was a brilliant player and his talent was a gift from God, Diego was a fiery character not only with the ball but also off the ball. He got into numerous fights and was penalised a number of times.

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The question that comes up when you understand that anger is a negative emotion most of the times is that why does it even exist? Well, there are two ways to answer this question. The first way is to look for the scientific reasons behind its existence in the array of emotions felt by humans. The second way is to look for philosophical reasons. Let us see things from a scientific viewpoint first.
Anger is an emotion that enables a human to respond usually in a violent manner to an action that is unpleasant or unwanted.

It also arises when a person does not get what he wants. Consider the following example. You are driving on the road. You are careful, you are aware of what’s going around on the streets and you are following the traffic rules properly. Suddenly, a car collides with your car. It might not be a serious accident but you love your car a lot and cannot bear to see a dent, no matter how small, on it. You get out of the car and get hold of the driver whose car crashed into yours. Without listening to his side of the incident as to why it happened, you start shouting and vent your anger out. Is this the right thing to do? Anger tells you that you do not like whatever is happening to/with/around you. It lets you know that you need to act to respond to the situation in order to remove it. Nevertheless, can you change something that has already happened? In the example I cited above, can you go back in time and change the fact that you met with an accident which gave your car a dent therefore not making it a pleasant sight? No, you cannot. Can being angry and shouting at the other driver make you feel better? No, it will not.
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Now let us modify the example a bit. You are driving on the road. You are careful, you are aware of what’s going around on the streets and you are following the traffic rules properly. Suddenly, a car collides with your car. It might not be a serious accident but you love your car a lot and cannot bear to see a dent, no matter how small, on it. You get out of the car and take a look at the damage. You approach the other driver and ask him how it happened. If he is a genuine person, he will tell you the truth and if it is his mistake, he will be bold enough to admit it. If he is a cunning fellow, seeing your calm demeanour he might try to blame you make you the bad guy. In both the cases, you have to stay calm and try to have a composed conversation about the whole incident and arrive at a sensible conclusion.
The problem is that things can be hard to sort out and problems cannot be solved in a civilized manner as long as all the people involved in it are dealing with the situation in a composed manner. Imagine a world where all the people know how to control their anger and stay calm. What a peaceful and beautiful place the world would be! Anger is a necessary emotion but it being essential does not mean that it should be given control and the power to blow things out of proportion and make situations worse. Anger is necessary to let a person know that things are not good and need to be dealt with. Moreover, it needs to be controlled so as to ensure a continuous flow of positivity in your life. If anger is not managed effectively, its heat can burn your health and relationships leaving you regretting your actions and that, I am sure, is not what you want.

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