Victory and defeat are a part and parcel of the cycle of life. That is how life works. A leaf falling from a tree in the winter does not feel defeated by the cold as it has rendered life, love and breath to the tree, a man who has struggled for years and failed to reach his goal does not feel defeated as he knows he can work harder and hit the target the next time. He knows, one day, he will make it to the top. A young man rejected by his first love does not feel defeated. He does not stop believing in love. In fact, he knows he will find someone who understands him better and find happiness with his companion. He blames no one for what is happening to him. Rejection does not put an end to his ability to love. The same is true for love and war both. Defeat comes only when you see it as defeat. In reality, your failures and your defeat make you stronger and confident of your abilities.
In the cycle of nature, there is no such thing as victory or defeat. There is constant movement. Both victory and defeat continue to circulate from one hand to the other. Spring gets victorious over winter and replaces the sheer cold with its happiness and flowers. Similarly, the arrival of autumn replaces the warm days of summer. The snail eats the grass and is in turn devoured by the snake. Thus, the cycle of death and resurrection goes on. And within this cycle, there are no winners or losers. There is only life which thrives on constant struggle. In life, there are several stages that must be gone through. One must be able to accept difficult times and not immerse oneself completely in the moments of glory. Both are ephemeral. Both will pass. One will succeed the other and the cycle of life will continue this way.
Defeat is not something to be ashamed of. One must take pride in one’s defeat. Only he who gives up is defeated. Everyone else is victorious. Your defeat makes you able. Scars are medals branded on the flesh. They speak more loudly than the sword that caused them. Defeat is a proof of your long experience of battle. It will scare your enemies and often compel them to avoid conflict and seek dialogue. Your heart should be filled with joy at the prospect of every battle to be fought ahead in life. You should not be worried about victory or defeat. You must only be worried about giving your best shot. If you hold on to your dignity and honor, even if you lose the battle, you will still be respected and venerated. You will never be defeated because your soul will remain intact.
Losing everything we ever had will bring moments of sadness but it is certainly not the end of opportunities and the end of life. However, when these moments of sadness pass what remains is our inner strength and courage which grows with every lost battle in life. With our failures, we discover the hidden strength that exists in each of us. This strength plays a great role in enhancing our self confidence and never fails to surprise us. We will be cheered by our own failures and we will be able to prove the world that we survived. Only those who fail to recognize their inner strength after losing a battle will feel that they lost. The suffering and the defeat might make us feel humiliated for a short span of time. We might shed a few tears, but succumbing to self pity is not the right thing to do in such circumstances. Heave a sigh of relief, take a pause and listen to the beating of your own heart.
Discover that despite the fear, the faith is still alive in your soul that drives you forward to work hard and fight again. Try to work out what you did right and what you did wrong. After your defeat, rest, heal your wounds, prepare yourself and equip yourself better for the next battle. A day will dawn when a new battle will knock at your door. You have to act, get up and face our opponent remembering the suffering that you faced the previous time. You have to realize that you no longer wish to endure the same suffering and therefore you need to fight back. This time you have to win because you do not want to suffer the same pain again. However, if by any chance you do not win this time, and then victory will come to you the next time or the time after that. The important thing is to never give up and to get back on your feet always.
To bear your defeat without losing your heart is perhaps the greatest test of courage. Your victory does not teach you anything much but your defeat certainly leaves you with some important lessons of life. You must wait patiently for the right moment to act and never let opportunities slip by. Also, you should take pride in your defeat. As said by Joe Clark, “Defeat is not bitter unless you swallow it.”