Life is variable. Every one of us has experienced success and failure in life. But what does success and failure actually means? What failure teaches us? How to overcome failure? How to achieve success in life? Is failure is a mother of success? How to turn your failure into success?
Success is the achievement of something that you have been trying to do whether in particular area of life or generally in all areas of life; achievement of a goal; the opposite of failure. Failure is a lack of success in doing or achieving something, especially in relation to a particular activity. It is a situation in life which goes wrong or does not go according to your plan. Thomas J. Watson says-“If you want to succeed, double your failure rate.” One person may consider failure as a chance to try again and succeed in the second go whereas the other may take it as a failure. Failure can be differentially recognize from the viewpoints of the evaluators. There are basically two types of failure:
1. Outcome Failure: A person who is only interested in the final outcome may consider it as an outcome failure, if the matter issue has not been resolved or the matter need is not met.
2. Process Failure: A failure can also be a process failure whereby although the activity is completed successfully, a person may still feel disappointed if the underlying process is perceived to be below expected standard or benchmark.
Sometime success and failure is judged by others and sometimes it is judged by us. Failure is the stepping stones to later success. It is a step towards your final success. We should not stop doing at failure; we should find another appropriate way to reach at success. Find a new way to handle failure and do not look at in a more optimistic way, but also find within it clues for the next move. Be optimist, look for a good in every situation, even when they seem like the bleakest thing. that could happen to you or the people around you.
THINGS WE SHOULD LEARN FROM FAILURE:
1. Failure teaches us to try hard
Failure is a clue to redirect our efforts in different directions; follow a different set of plans; work hard and push you to the very maximum. It teaches us to work harder the next time if we experience failure in our first attempt. This way we learn to never give up in our life.
2. Failure teaches us to how to avoid mistakes:
Failure shows us the mistake so that we can avoid that mistake happening again next time to succeed later.
3. Failure helps us to define what is important in our lives and highlight our values:
Failure helps us to select and choose in what area we would like to have success so that we can focus on our time, effort and energy in that area.
4. Failure makes us stronger:
When we fail, we are morally devastated. It needs strength and the courage of a warrior to stand up on the feet and fight for success. So next time when you fail, draw strength from it and become a stronger human being who is ready to succeed.
5. Failure helps to overcome fear:
When you fail then you are living you are living your greatest fear. Once you are above it, you become fearless.
6. Failure gives knowledge:
One of the largest gift that failure give is the knowledge that failure is never final, unless we choose to give up.
7. Failure gives us experience:
The fact you have failed at something means that you have gained experience in attempting or trying to make something happen.
8. Failure teaches us to be grounded and humble:
People who achieved success in their life by overcoming failure knows that being humble and grounded is one of the most respected virtues of any successful person.
9. Failure teaches us to give up the past:
Nothing in this world is permanent; Change is only constant.Try to forget your past and focus on your present and future.
10. Failure teaches us to be tough and also teaches us to welcome changes:
STRATEGIES TO TURN FAILURE INTO SUCCESS:
Firstly, look at the situation from different angles. Ask for suggestion from your friend and family members. Don’t just only look for type of support that will feed your ego; ask for perspectives from people who may not have been supportive during the process. The most important part of this step is to listen to others, take in the information and then integrate or combine everything you know of your failure into a complete picture of what had happened and why. Don’t react emotionally to anything you discover or that people express to you.
For me, the word revise is a nice way to consent myself to let go of this failure or path completely. While you are gaining new perspective or matter, be open to ideas and move forward. People might give different views, ideas and suggestions without asking you. Be prepared for that. Give a chance to them to speak, thank them for their feedback, and move on. When you have enough ideas to form a new plan of action, write them on paper. You may have to impassive or aloof a little bit and imagine as if you are looking at someone else’s situation, especially when people are offering varied suggestions. Be prepared to step back from anything that is not working in your life.
Once you have a new plan or an idea of how you want to progress, the most critical or important thing you can do to overcome feeling like failure is to adopt your new path and focus.
Failure tastes really bad when it hits because it creates pain, despair and abominable lull but if dealt bravely it does well in long run and helps you to achieve success. Bill Cosby said -”In order to succeed, your desire for success should be greater than fear of failure”.