‘Love’ a four letter word or a four letter myth? A four letter promise or a four letter form of betrayal? Meaning of love has changed in the recent past, love has given some people a reason to live, a motive to live, and for some it’s just another way of breaking trust, promise and faith. People have got their own perceptions about love. Love is classified and is strongly followed by two genders in this world. HE and SHE.
LOVE is a tender feeling which is expressed and felt by two souls who are willing to fight against all the social norms, all the odds, etc to bring their dreams change into reality. Nobody in this world can deny this fact that at some point or the other love has changed their life to some extent, true love is hard to find now a days as the meaning of love has changed completely . For some, it’s about just making fun of the feelings of their partner. For some, it’s about just getting intimate and, for some, it’s using and playing with the character of the other person. I’m not talking about somebody in particular and to be more precise I’m not talking about just men or just women, I’m talking about both these genders. But in the recent study, and according to a survey, 78 percent men cheat on their partners first. Women on the other hand and more prone to be betrayed by their partners. “Lucky is the man who is the first love of the women and Lucky is the woman who is the last love of the men”. Not being a chauvinist or setting a particular stereotype about men ,but often it is seen that women love freely and without any expectations.
They don’t possess love, for love is meant to be free. You don’t possess the person you love, for it is meant to be free. Men on the other hand try to have a grip on their partners and possess love. They forget a simple thing that love is like a bird, if you’ll keep her caged, it will die sooner or later. In a relationship healthy insecurity and possessiveness are not uncommon, nor are they are cause of worry. When these traits cross a reasonable boundary, there comes a time when they will actually start causing stress and will create pressure on one or both partners.
Becoming overbearing and possessive can turn a once happy, loving relationship into a relationship based on fear , jealousy and control. It stems from feelings of insecurity in a relationship, where the possessive person doubts the love and dedication of another person and as a result, becomes jealous in controlling. “If our love is only a will to possess, it is not love”.
There are many drawbacks which people face today in their relationship with their partners. Why is it so hard to lead a life without any form of ethical problems? Why is it so hard to find a partner who can stay loyal to us and love us back without any expectations? Loyalty can anytime overcome betrayal if our mind and heart did not have the audacity to cheat. What matters is the bond of trust between two people which should be maintained throughout the phase of their relationship. The two people should be mingled so well with each other and share a strong bond to make their relationship a success.
“Bold Lover, never , never can thou kiss/Though winning near the goal- yet, do not grieve”- Ode to a Grecian Urn by John Keats, how truly he specified the purity of love. The static portrait on the Grecian Urn depicted a lover who was just about to kiss his love, but because it was just a pictorial depiction of love and will remain anchored their love will remain pure and their zest for love would remain the same forever. This is also a very sensitive issue in a relationship. The love should not fade away with the tempo. It should be in its purest forms throughout. No avail should be expected from your partner. Also, love should not be treated as a medium of lust, as it is not a game where you need to win the heart of someone to break it later.
Like i said that there are more of women who are betrayed by men in the long run. But it is not only men who fool and are often fooled as well. There are various type of people that exist in this world and yes, the behaviour from person to person varies to a large extent. Often men are cheated by their partners and are left broken and shattered. It’s not like they don’t have feelings. But all this has just changed the meaning of love these days. Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength , while loving someone deeply gives you courage. Love in its purest form is always the best form of love. Only once in your life you find someone who can completely turn your world around. You tell them thing that you’ve never shared with anyone. You share hopes for future and dreams that may come true. There is never any pressure, jealousy or competition but only a quiet calmness when they are around. Colours seem brighter and more brilliant. Laughter seems as a part of your daily lives. Simple things bring them to mind like a pale blue sky, gentle wind or even a storm cloud on the horizon. And that is when you know your love is true and pure. And hence “There is never a time or place for true love. It happens accidently, in a heartbeat, in a single flashing, throbbing moment.” rightly said by Sarah Dessen.