All of us want to be successful in our lives, achieved our desired goals, be happy with our lives and what not. But are we really confident about what we want to do with ourselves, with our lives, where we want to see ourselves in the upcoming years. Yes undoubtedly dreaming is important because that’s the seed from which the plant has to grow and there are a lot many stimulators required to ensure growth of your dreams and self-confidence is one amongst them. Yes in this entire journey of dreaming and fulfilling them you have to be confident about grabbing your opportunities and actually living your dreams.
How confident you are, this can be revealed in many ways. This can be revealed from your body language, the way you walk, the way you speak, how you express your thoughts and many other ways. Having low self-confidence can be destructive and it often leads into negativity. People with low self-confidence govern their behavior based on what other people think of them, they always prefer to stay in their comfort zone and never take risks because they fear that they might fail. People with low self-confidence often tend to work hard to cover up their mistakes whereas people with high self-confidence are quite the opposite. They are a bunch of positive minded folks who are ready to take calculative risks and learn from the mistakes that they commit. Generally there are two factors that are part of self-confidence. These are self-efficacy and self-esteem. Self-efficacy is the kind of confidence that gets build up when we see ourselves achieving those goals that matters in fulfilling the thing that we had aimed and dreamed for. This kind of confidence leads people to take up the difficult challenges and work efficiently on them and stand firm on the path of setbacks and difficulties so that they can efficiently tackle them. Self-esteem whereas in general refers to our ability to cope up with the happenings of our lives. It partly comes from approval of people in our surroundings but mostly it comes from the inner sense that we are capable and competent enough at what we do, that we can successfully complete whatever task we take on to do.
Self-confidence is something that cannot be built overnight. As long as you have focus and determined to do things, you can easily build up your confidence within you. Self-confidence sometimes does also automatically comes from some real achievement because building self-confidence will be directly proportional to trigger success. As everything comes with a set of some bare minimum rules that you might follow self-confidence also has some minimum things you should check on so that you become self-confident and successful. Firstly you should be prepared with the proper mindset to start your journey. You should commit yourselves to it and stay with it no matter what happens. Look at whatever achievements you have till date because achievement are quite a solid stimulator of self-confidence. Achievements may be small or big. It may be securing a top position in a test or being in an important position in an organization or delivering a successful project. Then you have to analyze your strengths i.e. our strong points and then you have to think what is important to you and where you want to go and what exactly you want to achieve. Then we have to learn to control our minds. Secondly it’s time now to set out. You now have a plan and you should have broad and extensive knowledge about how to succeed and the skills we need to achieve but at the same time we need to be stick to the basics and focus on them because without a strong base growing is quite difficult. At the start set small goals and achieve them. The way small drops of water make up the ocean similarly if you start achieving the small goals you set they will take you nearer to your dream and in this process your self confidence level will increase manifolds with each passing day. Other important thing to do is always talk confidently with yourself. Since confidence means thinking that you can and you will fulfill your dreams. So always persuade yourself constantly through self-talk that you are capable, you can execute all your strategies and perform well. Always keep a check on what you are talking to yourself because whatever you say to yourself should be instructional and very motivational rather than doubting and negative. Lastly while executing everything you need to act confidently. Your thought, feelings and behavior all are related. All these together should enhance your feeling of confidence. Always keep your head high and put on your confident front. Even if you fail still keep up your confident front because ‘you need to fake it till you make it’ or you can say it as ‘Behave with confidence to trigger your mindset of confidence’. Shortly to say all you have to do is be practical and focus on all achievable goals, recreate past successes, carry positivity with you everywhere, develop and stick to a very competitive plan and keep your patience.
As Mark Victor Hansen has aptly said “Don’t wait until everything is just right. It will never be perfect. There will always be challenges, obstacles and less than perfect conditions. So what. Get started now. With each step you take you grow stronger and stronger, more and more skilled, more and more self-confident and more and more successful” and equally inspiring are Golda Meir’s word “Trust yourself. Create the kind of self that you will be happy to live with all your life. Make the most of yourself by fanning the tiny, inner sparks of possibility into flames of achievement.”