We have become exceptionally busy nowadays-striving for a better career (more for acceptance into our society), or taking care of our children, spouses, parents, siblings, or toiling laboriously for stretches of hours, sometimes days just for the advancement of the organization that we work for, which provides for our livelihood. Such is our schedule, that we barely have time for our own near and dear ones and our passions. I am pretty sure you must have already been advised to “take some time out for yourself” and the like in many books, magazines, articles and so on. I do not want to instruct you in this article about how to go about with your life, but maybe this article might just open up your mind and inspire you to go ahead with your long lost passions or rekindle that spark within you which is needed to fight against your own inhibitions.
- For the next half an hour, completely immerse yourself in the present, and deliberately forget to think about how something happened two days ago, or the difficult times you know lies ahead.I do not think there have been many times in your recent or late past where you might have done this. No, no past breakups, no bill tensions, and no year plans for the next thirty minutes. If you are not doing anything currently, just sit blankly and admire the things around you, and try to discover the magic in each- the fan which rotates above your head, the chair which effortlessly manages your weight, the tall trees with so many green leaves. I do not guarantee peace and calmness from the first few minutes itself, but trust me, it is going to be the best 30 minutes you might have spent in the past year or two. No matter how old or young you are, or how dense or sparse your schedule is, live in the present in the next few minutes.
- Do something that you are sick afraid of. I shall tell you about my own inhibition. I am too afraid to get into water. Once, I was out with my friends to a beach. Despite my almost successful efforts in staying on the land, and not being pulled into the water by my sea-obsessed pals, waves managed to overlap me for two seconds such that it scared the hell out of me. In summer I decided to put this misery to an end, and I trotted off to swimming lessons. I had my own share of embarrassments where I fell and my peers laughed and made fun of me, yet here I stand with confident that even if I am the worst student and take the longest in my class, still I shall only leave when I have mastered the art to swim. If you are afraid of heights, try sitting in the highest roller coaster ride in the amusement park. It is very scary from down here yes, but after you have survived the five minutes on it, you feel high on the rush and the thrill you get on having conquered what had been stopping you till now.
- Observe a spur-of-the-moment day. You want to go to the sea right now? Ride off! You have a crazy dress in your wardrobe calling out to you? Wear it! You want to run the marathon maybe? Sign up for it! You wanted to visit some place? Visit it now! Do it before your second thoughts do good of it. Half the time, whatever we decide is drowned in our own reconsiderations. Sometimes we even procrastinate it so much, that later when we have the time or the chance, we are not able to enjoy it as much as we could have. Go with the flow. Do what your mind tells you to. It’s high time you became spontaneous. Life’s element is spontaneity. But sad to say, it is getting overlapped somewhere every time by our huge burden of responsibilities. It would be nice to give it some momentum sometimes.
- Be honest to yourself to an extent that it is extreme. There are many things that you know are true but do not accept just because it is difficult to cope with. But are you that weak? Can’t you stand up to what you have done and just deal with the repercussions? Go to your ex, tell him that you forgive him and are over him, and it doesn’t matter even if he dates your best friend. You do not like the way someone has been trying to put you down for the past days? Tell him on your face, be it your boss! Nobody is more important or higher in rank than you in your life. It is your sole right and privilege. Rule it. Rock it! Bare the raw truth. Write it on paper, confess it to someone who you think needs to know. Develop the guts to tell your bullies off. Each of us are strong enough and equal enough. We were all born in the same way and so shall we die. Don’t you think you just need to let out the truth completely just once?
- Make your own list of the things you would like to go about doing before you die, if you haven’t yet and stick it somewhere you can read it every day and remind yourself to work toward it. You might want to just climb to the tip of Eifell tower or camp in Antarctica. Extreme living? Spends lots of money on a dinner in the poshest place available around? Ride your bike from part of the country to the other? Jot it down, no matter how unrealistic or hideous it might look in the first place. You never know. Something which is not possible today, might just be a habit tomorrow. Live free, think free.
“Dare to Be
When a new day begins, dare to smile gratefully.
When there is darkness, dare to be the first to shine a light.
When there is injustice, dare to be the first to condemn it.
When something seems difficult, dare to do it anyway.
When life seems to beat you down, dare to fight back.
When there seems to be no hope, dare to find some.
When you’re feeling tired, dare to keep going.
When times are tough, dare to be tougher.
When love hurts you, dare to love again.”