We have all used the phrase “It’s such a small world” or “c’est un petit monde” at least once in our lives.
But have you ever given a thought about it? In our lives we meet tons of people and they further meet tons more this circle goes on leading you to connect to many more. And after all the earth is round. Have you read the book titled “Message in a bottle” by Nicholas Spark? Two people living across the seas connected after finding that message. It’s a beautiful way of letting us know that world is not as big and distant as we think it is.
I have definitely used this phase 100 times at least. In a plane I met a doctor his assistant happened to be my sister’s very good friend. Then once in a store the new sales girl happened to be my school junior and recognized me. Two of my friends happened to be roomies in London. When I went for a job interview it turned out my employer’s sister went to the same school years ago but we clicked on that and I got the job. My french teacher in college while taking vivas questioned which school I was from and turns out she went to the same school she forgot all about the vivas and started discussing about our school teachers, fortunate for me as my miserable vivas became awesome. These are just few of them but am sure you have also experienced similar happenings.
Today thanks to social media sites it’s become very easy to connect. The world was a small place earlier now it has shrunk even more. Thanks to facebook my mother connected with her childhood best friend after 25 years. Wherever you are in the world today it is become so easy to stay connected that you really don’t feel the distance at all.
Have you heard of this theory called six degree of separation? Social scientists have been trying to figure out these social networks since the late 1960s. What they found was that most people in the world can be connected to one another by six degrees of separation. All of the people who we know – our work colleagues, old high school buddies, and social friends – make up our first degree of separation. In turn, all the people they know become the second degree of separation from us. And so on, until we reach six degrees and can connect with just about anyone on the planet.Six degrees of separation is the theory that everyone and everything is six or fewer steps away, by way of introduction, from any other person in the world, so that a chain of “a friend of a friend” statements can be made to connect any two people in a maximum of six steps.
That’s good in theory. But how do we put the theory into practice and make these “small world” moments? I have my own theory on this and time and again it has worked.
1. Always stay in the moment. When meeting new people always stay alert and attentive. Listen to everyone carefully and make notes in your head as to who is who and what they do.
2. While communicating if you are sharing an episode always mention the names of people, places, events and occurrences: This will give the other person the opportunity to respond with the possibility a small world connection. Like once I was at a party where I didn’t know most of the people around me. I got in a conversation with the lady sitting next to me and it turned out she was one of my friend’s mother. If either of us had not delved into details we would never find this out. So it is important to share while communicating instead of saying “that person” or “that place” or “that thing” give a name it works.
3.Ask connecting questions like:- Do you Sara from your college? What’s your favourite holiday destination? Oh!did you try this restaurant called Kaventers while you were there? If you don’t ask questions you will not be able to make any connection and your world will remain as small as your group of close friends.
When you ask the questions, you’ll be surprised how quickly you can make the connection.Of course this approach is only as good your ability to “take the moment and dance with it.” Maybe next time you are at a social gathering you will be able to seize the moment by taking simple steps and to recall previous information at the point of interaction, we can create the connection that helps to make our encounters more memorable.
Remember if this world wasn’t so small we would never have been able to find our Mr. or Miss Right. We do find that special someone in the most strangest of places ever. It’s beyond imagination that you will find this person there and connect and realize you have a lot in common and sometimes even a friend or two and then you go “Oh!It’s such a small WORLD”.
It’s a world of laughter
A world of tears
It’s a world of hopes
And a world of fears
There’s so much that we share
That it’s time we’re aware
It’s a small world after all
There is just one moon
And one golden sun
And a smile means
Friendship to everyone
Though the mountains divide
And the oceans are wide
It’s a small world after all <3