“Use what talents you possess. The woods would be very silent if no birds sang there except the ones that sang the best” .
I start my write-up with henry van dyke’s quote. Philosophers have been thinking over and debating whether good is real good or not. Being good to others is far more complicated than being kind to them. What you think is good may not be the best thing for them. Being good to others is an easy way to define oneself and explore your life. What is your role in this world? Are you here for a bigger cause that you would have ever dreamed of? Just be an honest and kind person will suffice you the vagaries of the modern world. You will ace through your life and even feel good about it. But is it true in today’s world? Do you really expect others to be returning the same favour you did them. In order to be good, you will have to decode the meaning of goodness to yourself and others as well. This is the notion today. One should know where to draw the line. If you are too good to a stranger, you will be frowned at. If you are one point less you will be frowned at no matter what. Gone are those days when people took charity on a serious note and expected the least when the circumstances were reversed. We want the most from others, be it the extra oregano packet from the domino’s and will think thrice before offering the pizza to the hungry kids standing on the other side of the glass door. Life on earth has taken a series of turns. If you fell on the lucky side, you are well-versed with money and education. Others who did not are the unlucky ones. Is it then the responsibility of the lucky ones to revolutionize the world? To an extent the answer is a yes, and that revolution is the biggest charity which you can bring in. Help others keeping in mind that they are equivalent beings and deserve your charity and not your hand outs. Such small acts of kindness will do wonders. If you are earning a handsome lump sum, it should not bother you if you devote a part of your income to feed the poor. Last week, I read a wonderful answer on quora of a man who used his first salary to treat the rag pickers kids at a McDonalds. I must say that the man was real smart with a golden heart. We are often advised to donate sweets to the temple or offer the same to the beggars sitting outside. But think outside the box just like that man did. Giving connects us to others, creating stronger bonds and relationships. And giving is not all about money; it can be of your time, ideas and energy. You must have heard that charity begins at home. Do not go around buying unnecessary gift items for your parents and siblings just because the quote says so. That would be a complete waste of money. Act smart and start by giving advice to your little brother when he needs some. Do not say no to your mother when she asks you to bring the veggies from the market. Make time for your familial breakfast, lunch or dinner. In my family, breakfast and dinner are private affairs of all the individuals. But when it comes to lunch, we eat together. You know that popular saying, the family that eats together stays together. The goodness shared is our food.
If you are still sceptical about the sharing business, the medical theories will open up your eyes. When we assist in any possible way, it activates the areas of the brain which are linked to pleasure, social connection and trust. It releases endorphins and boosts happiness, well-being and positivity. There you go; you can check it anytime on Google whenever you find yourself at loggerheads of helping a being or minding your own business. It is okay if things don’t work out the way you wanted them to be. It just points out to the fact that you need to reconsider your actions of goodwill and change them accordingly. It can work the next time. Do not beat around the bush of your acts of kindness. Do well by stealth but with a translucent veil. Accept it, everyone needs fame, be it the number of likes on your profile picture or the other picture you took sitting by the pariah dogs. Make sure you are not making a big deal of it. Show case it to the extent it is well appreciated. If you overdo it, you will be disregarded as an illustrious person. Do not restrict your observational parameter. Live to learn continually about all the other ways to do well. Improve your understanding of what goodness is and how it is a tad different for others. Seek out a guide if you find difficult situations in your life. Learn good books and inculcate the teachings in your routine. Lastly, give a little, learn a little.