Teen life 101

Teenage life is generally perceived to be a period of ‘storm and stress’ where due to hormonal changes and the transition of being a child to an adult causes a lot upheaval in a person’s life but in reality around three fourths of teenagers have a perfectly happy and stable adolescence.



How often have adults we know reminisced about their younger days, longing to relive them once again.  Clearly they have fond memories, so why should we miss out. You’re only young once, and that doesn’t even last forever, so you have to make the most of it.

As hard as it may seem to accept, you have minimal responsibilities and a relatively easy life. Now of course you can’t do whatever you feel like and expect to get away with it like you probably did when you were a child, but what you fail to see that we have traded in less responsibilities for more freedom.

At this stage in your life you are entrusted by your parents to make your own decisions, and then they wonder why the dresses get shorter, the curfews get later and the makeup, well let’s not go there.


Adolescence is a time of experiments. A time to try new things… safe things. It’s easy to get carried away with what everyone else is doing, whether it is good or bad, smart or stupid, but it’s important to remember that your bad choices affect you the most. Teens love to rebel. They make their own laws and decisions.

The young always have the same problem – how to rebel and conform at the same time. They have now solved this by defying their parents and copying one another.” ― Quentin Crisp

During these years it’s really when you get to know yourself. You form substantial opinions on the world and its functioning. It’s a period of learning who you are and where you stand in the world.

This process is generally filled with bad decisions, numerous mistakes and making promises that are impossible to keep. At the time these things can feel apocalyptical, but in time to come they morph into fond memories worthy of a good laugh.

They don’t let others define them. However, they can be gullible and succumb to peer pressure. A lot of teenagers feel like there are certain things that they are obligated to do because they are teenagers and because all their friends are doing it.

define yourself

It is often forgotten that it is ok to not want to do something, or that it is ok to say no, like saying no to alcohol or cigarettes. A simpler example could also be going for a party the night before an exam, simply because all your friends are going.

“The toddler must say no in order to find out who she is. The adolescent says no to assert who she is not.” -Louise J. Kaplan

But being a teenager is not like going to war with authority or yourself. With these hardships come pleasant perks, like making friends. You make the most friends during your teenage life. And what’s even better is that these friendships generally last a lifetime.

They’ve seen you at your best and have seen you at your worst, and still love you anyway. Plus all the gossip y’all have shared must count for something right? Friends are the life line of teenage life, even calls at 3 am don’t go unanswered.

Teens on cellphone

Long conversations are a common sighting. Miraculously they can talk for hours and hours on end about nothing at all and still have more to discuss! Social interaction commands priority. Who’s seeing whom and who said what seem much more important that unexciting topics like world politics, the oil crisis, global warming and numerous other such issues that cannot possibly affect our average teenager.

‘As a teenager you are at the last stage in your life when you will be happy to hear that the phone is for you.’ ― Frances Ann Lebowitz

Hanging out with friends is the most important thing in the world. And if you don’t get permission for a party?! It feels like the end of the world!

Teens love going out, at least most of them do. That’s why they’re generally spotted patrolling the  mall grounds or creating trouble in the parks, etc.

Though this section of or society are extremely important and happy go lucky, their significance is generally overlooked by adults, deeming themselves to be of a higher standing. Their opinionated and generally quite colorful views are so often disregarded.

Their experiences are not considered worthy of being experiences as in comparison to adults their experiences are limited.

 “I find it really offensive when people say that the emotional experiences of teenagers are less real or less important than those of adults. I am an adult, and I used to be a teenager, and so I can tell you with some authority that my feelings then were as real as my feelings are now.” – John Green

It’s a period of clarity and confusion, a feeling of knowing everything, yet nothing at all. Most teens feel relatively sire of themselves, with know it all tendencies. They are stubborn and in their need to exercise their newfound power of making their own decisions, they tend to make bad ones.

“Why hasn’t someone lassoed a few teenagers and had them sit down and write out all the supposed answers they have so we can solve the world’s problems already?” ― Richelle E. Goodrich



You’re only young for so long before you’re an adult sitting on the couch thinking ‘Man I wish I’d done that when I was younger.’ So go out and make some memories.



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