Meaning- having or showing behaviour that is respectful and considerate of other people.
Synonyms-well mannered,civil,courteous, respectful,well behaved,gracious,chivalrous,considerate.
This word I just introduced you to is on the verge of extinct. Remember our school days when we were taught the 5 golden words? Let me help you brush them up- Thank You, Please, Excuse Me, I beg your Pardon and Sorry. Today these words have been wiped off from our lives. They merely exist in the dictionary but not in actuality.
Very recently I was at my cousin’s place, the minute my niece walked home from school she ordered the maid to bring her lunch while she sat in front of the television,I sat there silently observing her mannerisms, waiting for the thank you to follow once her food was brought but of course it didn’t. Once she was done eating her plate was left there on the table without her bothering to say “please take my plate” . All day my niece and nephew ordered around the house without once uttering “thank you”. Their parents didn’t bother to correct them either to my astonishment. As I shared the room with my niece I saw all her stuff is lying around the room,shoes thrown on the side, dirty laundry thrown on the floor all of this lay around for 2 days before the maid picked it up.The maid was only scolded for meddling with her stuff. I don’t blame my niece completely, parents today have forgotten to teach their kids the act of politeness. This competitive, practical world is making us heartless and ill-mannered.
“It is a wise thing to be polite; consequently, it is a stupid thing to be rude. To make enemies by unnecessary and wilful incivility, is just as insane a proceeding as to set your house on fire. For politeness is like a counter–an avowedly false coin, with which it is foolish to be stingy.”
― Arthur Schopenhuer.
There isn’t a manual given that teaches one how to behave and what to say or not. Yes however the society has its own unspoken rules of behaviour. Like in a restaurant it is considered bad manners to be loud and create unnecessary commotion, next time such individuals maybe be barred from entering. On a flight if a passenger misbehaves with the crew or fellow passengers he or she is de planed to the nearest location. With in a group of friends if one friend is always a free loader then next time he will not be invited.On a date it is bad manners to let the girl pay,do show some chivalry or remember she can spread the word and you will remain single all your life. There are some unspoken etiquettes that just need to be followed to continue living in this symbiotic world.
I think a man is judged by the way he treats his subordinates than his superiors. However being polite doesn’t mean one should tolerate injustice and get bullied by everyone around them. Be polite but not a doormat to anyone. There are a lot of people out there in the world who don’t understand politeness,etiquettes and manners.
Have you noticed there are some people who constantly correct others diction and vocabulary? Isn’t this highly annoying. English language across the globe is pronounced and spoken in different ways I think correcting someone in front of a large group is not just impolite but rude as well.
For me the most infuriating habit is tardiness. You are invited for dinner and you reach 15 mins late is all right as nobody expects you to be dot on time but turning up late for a meeting every time shows your lack of commitment and that you do not take your work seriously. It is bad manners to keep your colleagues waiting in a meeting as well. Even the hours that a doctor keeps you waiting in spite of a prior appointment shows he doesn’t care about your time and pain at all. Yes, I say this out of personal experience not that all doctors are the same but there are few who will give you an appointment but will keep you waiting 2 hours post the given time and when they see you they will dismiss you in 2 minutes whether your done explaining yourself or no. I think it insulting when someone doesn’t value our time. After all today, Time is Money.
Nothing is more nauseous than apparent self-sufficiency. For it shows two things, which are extremely disagreeable: that you have a high opinion of yourself to an extend of being a narcissist, and that you have comparatively a mean opinion of others. I detest such kind of people completely. You are successful in life that’s good but how do you treat people matters the most. I choose humility over affectation any given time.
Bring a smile by being polite and not a frown by being rude. You will be remembered by your kind words and gestures, nobody remembers an arrogant, ill-mannered, snobbish person.
Always remember, “Manners maketh a MAN“!!!
“Ability does catches my attention, but its a politeness in the person that I remember.”